Thanks for your comments and questions. I would be more than happy to put together a support group via conference call if there are other women interested. Ladies — do write if you are interested.

I think it is important to note here, that these types of feelings are perfectly normal. We are born without the programming that says you have to chose to sexually interact with only one sex or the other. We are naturally curious, and let’s face it sex is primarily about connecting, exploring pleasure and feeling good, not just all about marriage and choosing a life partner, as it was before the “pill.”

Some people are afraid that if they explore sexual interactions with members of the same sex that it means they must be “gay.” Personally, I like to avoid labels as much as possible, as it is just another way of stepping into another socially pre-programmed box with its own series of expectations. The only thing that make a person “gay” is if they decide that they absolutely prefer to have life and sex partners that are the same sex, excluding the opposite sex. Otherwise, I’m here to tell you it is just good, clean fun — as long as you use appropriate safe sex practices.

Actually, I recommend that for those who are open and/or curious, sexual interactions with the same sex are as important as interactions with the opposite sex. With the same sex, it is like a mirror… they understand how to pleasure your body usually better than the opposite sex, cause they have the same stuff! In addition, what you discover about yourself and your sexuality from the same sex takes you deeper into your experience and understanding of your own gender in a way that could never be uncovered with a member of the opposite sex. It also helps to dissolve some of the competitiveness that our culture programs into us and we are better able to appreciate ourselves and our same sex friends on deeper and higher levels.

Go for it!

I have had an email discussion with Amara a few months ago about what has been in the forefront of my sexual brain lately.

I am a woman in my early 50′s, divorced, attractive, fit and very sexual. I do date men but lately I have been finding myself highly attracted and with many fantasies about women. I am sure I am not the only woman out there with these thoughts. All my masturbation fantasies are about having a woman make love to me and vice versa and I have started to watch some very good and authentic lesbian porn to augment these fantasies. I feel that I need to go to the next step and experience this in the flesh, so to speak.

Are there other women other there that can relate to this? Does anyone know of any support groups that deal with this issue? Where does one meet another single woman who is also attracted to women.
I would greatly appreciate any email, comments or suggestions from women out there who can appreciate my situation.
pillowqueen54@gmail.com